After many of us experienced very different holiday celebrations last year, there is great anticipation of family gatherings and traditions feeling more like ‘normal’ this year. As much as we may look forward to social activities, holiday shopping, and quality time with loved ones, there can also be difficult moments that we dread. Many of us have also experienced the loss of a beloved family member or friend, unhappy memories from holidays past, or just a general sense of malaise of having endured 21 months of a pandemic.So, keeping up with activities, staying positive and safely socializing can be overwhelming.
In addition, 40% of adults in the United States struggle to manage their overall wellbeing, making a complicated holiday season even more difficult time for many people. Regardless of whether you are living with a mental health challenge or know someone who is, you can take steps to prepare for the holidays and prioritize your mental health in the coming weeks.
Use these tips to get started:
- Manage your expectations. Remember that this year may still not feel like the holiday season we are used to. Whether you are sharing a meal over Zoom or sending well wishes to family across the country, managing your expectations for yourself and others will help you stay positive. Give yourself and those around you some grace – none of us have been through a time like this before, and we’re all trying to balance staying safe with feeling “normal.”
- Pull back when you need to. If, at any point, you feel overwhelmed or anxious, know that it’s perfectly fine to take a step back. Healthy boundaries are necessary for your mental health. Practicing self-care can also help soothe feelings of anxiety or stress. Take a walk, watch a funny movie, or meditate.
- Reach out to loved ones. In times like this, living in a digital age can feel like a saving grace. Stay connected with your loved ones via text, social media, video, or phone. Make yourself available for those you cannot see in person and offer your support to loved ones who may be struggling — a simple text or email can make a difference.
- Monitor your moods. The “holiday blues” are real, so it is important to stay in tune with how you’re feeling. It can be easy to put others before yourself during the holiday season but remember that how you’re feeling matters too. Practicing mindfulness, journaling, focusing on your prayer life and Bible study, or even rating how you feel every day can help you better understand your emotions. Pay attention to what brings you joy and incorporate it into your daily life. And remember: It’s OK to not be OK, and you’re not alone.
- Ask for help. If the holidays become more than you can handle, don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help. Talk to a loved one, trusted peer, your primary care physician, or contact Allen Temple’s Bethsaida Counseling Servicesfor a referral to talk about how you’re feeling. If you notice a family member or loved one having a difficult time, encourage them to seek help too.
Even though we are still navigating uncertain times this holiday season, you can still make it special and comfortable by prioritizing your mental health and well-being. Take it one day at a time and develop a selfcare plan to get through the season.
Wishing you and yours a wonderfully blessed holiday season!
Sources/Resources:
- National Council for Mental Wellbeing
- Bethsaida Counseling Services at 510-544-8945
- Distress Helpline at 800-985-5990
- 800-273-8255 or text MHFA to 741741 to talk to a Crisis Text Line Counselor
